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Finding God’s Healing for Sexual Brokenness (Part 2 of 2)

Finding God’s Healing for Sexual Brokenness (Part 2 of 2)

Sy Rogers describes how his childhood was marked by devastation and loss, which led to homosexual promiscuity and a brush with transgenderism during his teen and early adult years. He explains how his life has been transformed by God, and offers parents guidance for protecting their children against harmful cultural influences. (Part 2 of 2)
Original Air Date: October 14, 2021

John Fuller: Today on Focus on the Family, Pastor Sy Rogers continues a presentation about pursuing sexual purity and harnessing our basic human biology.

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Sy Rogers: But just because there’s a predisposition, what was it GK Chesterton and CS Lewis said very well about Mother Nature giving you a predisposition? 100 years ago they said this. Just because Mother Nature gives you a predisposition doesn’t make it natural nor normal to indulge. Because Mother Nature is not your mother, she’s your corrupted fallen sister.

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John: You’ll hear more from Pastor Sy today in a presentation that is designed for a mature audience. And your host is Focus on the Family president Jim Daly. I’m Jon Fuller.

Jim Daly: John, as we heard last time, Sy Rogers suffered a lot of trauma by the age of six, and was sent to live with female relatives after his mom was killed in a car accident. Up until that time, he had been repeatedly molested by a trusted male in his mom’s life, and he fully embraced the homosexual lifestyle as a teenager. He even considered gender reassignment surgery, and lived as a woman for almost two years. But eventually Sy discovered that God wanted to be his heavenly Father, the Father he always wanted. And he embraced the sold-out life for Jesus Christ. And if you missed part one of Sy’s presentation yesterday, um, please get in touch with us. We can send you the entire message on CD or audio download, or you can get the Focus on the Family app for your smartphone.

John: And of course, we’re also on YouTube, so give us a call, 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Or you’ll find the links at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Sy married his wife, Karen, in 1982, and they have one daughter, uh, he served for many years as a teaching pastor with Life Church in Auckland, New Zealand. Sadly, he died just last year at the age of 63 from kidney cancer, and our hearts go out to his family.

John: Yeah, I’m sure he’s missed. Um, let me note that we’re picking up Sy’s message as he explains why it’s so important for parents to push back against the cultural messages that our children are exposed to, especially regarding sexual intimacy. Now, with that background, if you have kids in the room, use your earbuds or listen later. Um, and here now is Sy Rogers at a Devoted conference that was held at Wave Church in Virginia Beach, on today’s episode of Focus on the Family.

Sy: We must be the ones to upgrade the conversation. Like the day my daughter came home from school, high school. She put her books down on the dining room table. I was in the kitchen cutting something up. So then she said, “What about masturbation, daddy?” I put the knife down.

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: And then I said to her as all fathers do in a moment like this, “Go talk to your mom.”

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: Actually, I talked with her, and then her mom talked with her. But here’s the deal. I’m hardly a perfect dad. I just hope my daughter doesn’t write Daddy Dearest one day.

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: But I felt like I had done my job, because I would have never talked to my parents. I would have let my culture tell me.

Audience: Right.

Sy: I would have let my peer group tell me. And I knew my daughter. She’s already heard what her peer group said, and she already heard what her sex ed curriculum in school said, but now she wanted my opinion to discern through the voices. That’s why maintaining the bond, even if they roll their eyes, is better than abdicating.

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: Because when you break through the awkward barrier, it says, “Hey, I love you enough to give this a try.” So I have to learn to discern the voices. And that means, what does it say, Romans 12? “Hey, Sy, who you been listening to? Don’t copy the pattern of your pagan culture. I’ve adopted you into God culture. Copy this path of wisdom.” ‘Cause you know, frankly, not living out God’s sexual advice, and it’s explicit and direct, over 30 standards. Not because God loves rules. He loves people.

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: And you don’t have to be a Christian or a rocket scientist to recognize that mismanaged sexuality brings terrible consequence. Oh, 50 years ago, the sexual revolution brought us all a lot of casual sex, but it also brought a lot of sexual causalities.

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: And God doesn’t love standards. He loves people. But thank God He has a history of redeeming sex, and he redeems everything we give to him.

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: That abuse, that abortion, that label, that boundary crossing. Those feelings and detractions. He redeems everything we give Him. That we can walk in health, wisdom, and freedom. And so discerning, so I don’t copy those things. That means I have to see what the things are the world is saying, and then find out what is God saying. I have to learn to discern truth from lie, healthy from unhealthy, wisdom from folly, beneficial from detrimental. I have to make those assessments every day in a world of many voices calling my name, wanting my mind, my loyalty, and my money. I have to hear the voice of the shepherd, and Jesus says, “My sheep learn to discerneth, so start to practice now.”

Audience: Right.

Sy: Your made to succeed in hearing Him. “And Sy,” 1 John says, “Don’t, don’t believe everything everybody tells you. Don’t believe that post. Or get the rest of the story from that article. And don’t just let your hairdresser tell you what your truth is, and don’t just allow your friend or cousin to tell you what you should think about this thing.” Instead, discern the spirits. Don’t just listen to the teleprompter reader on the news. That’s a show. Instead, what is God saying? What’s His path of wisdom telling you? Discern it. In Jude, verse four, beware of people who teach you the grace of God lets you do what you want sexually. Grace gives you room to grow.

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: It doesn’t give you license to do what you want. And therefore, you know, I look at a two-year-old, and I cannot expect a two-year-old to act like a 45-year-old.

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: I give them grace. They can’t help it. We understand their poopy diapers, and then when they’re 15, they can’t help it, they have poopy attitudes.

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: But, but when you’re 45 and acting like a self-indulgent boundary-less two-year-old, then there will be trouble, not grace.

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: Then we got biology. Good heavens. Who wouldn’t struggle? We got a setup within us. It’s not our fault, and we are not assigning blame. Certainly, God is not. We have the impact of biology upon sexuality and relationship. And sexuality is a struggle because our biology sets us up. Not our fault. But we have to reckon with it. So we have a DNA code, and there can be some predisposition within us towards sex. But just because there’s a predisposition, what was it GK Chesterton and CS Lewis said very well about Mother Nature giving you a predisposition? 100 years ago they said this. Just because Mother Nature gives you a predisposition doesn’t make it natural nor normal to indulge. Because Mother Nature is not your mother, she’s your corrupted fallen sister.

Audience: Woo!

Sy: Then we got hormones coursing through our veins. [foreign language]. These hormones-

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: … between the ages of 12 and 17, sex hormones increase 600%. I know. We’re trying to get a meaningful education during all of that.

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: And these hormones, they make you feel sexual. But they’re not released, these hormones, from your glands. They’re not released from 12 to 17 in a nice little IV drip, daily dosage for convenient management, but they’re released in waves and rhythms. And some days your hormonal tide is low, and you don’t feel any sexual pressure, and you think, “I’ve been delivered from that demon of lust.”

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: And then, yeah, of course, you can cast out all the demons you want, you cannot cast out your hormones. And so two weeks later, the urge to merge begins to surge in your b- thank you so much.

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: Anyway. I’m so glad you could relate. But anyway…

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: That urge to merge begins to surge, and you feel like a werewolf, and people will cry out-

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: They’ll cry out in some purity messages, or in some young adult group at the altar, “Oh, take away this battle with lust, God. Oh, oh, take away these feelings. Take it away, God. I don’t want to offend you.” And I think God would say, “No, dear, you have it wrong. I take away guilt, not humanity. And by My divine design, you are laced with hormones that make you feel sexual, and I don’t take that away. I give you grace over here, and guidelines over here, and in the middle, you will learn to grow up and become a responsible steward for what you think and feel. I will be with you to help you walk in freedom.” You see, a culture that says, “But I have to be true to my feelings. I have to be authentic.” No, dear, nowhere in the word of God does God suggest you be true to your feelings. He suggests you be true to Him in spite of your feelings.

Audience: Woo! Woo!

Sy: We all have feelings, and integrity, and purity are not the absence of feelings. It’s how we manage them.

Audience: Yeah. Yeah.

Sy: So you can own it. It’s good mental health to admit you’re attracted. But attractions prove to be temporary unless you keep reinforcing and indulging them.

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: That’s why we pick up a cross. That’s why we crucify flesh. That’s why we say no to this to say yes to this. And that’s why we become responsible stewards of mind and body. He doesn’t take it away. We learn to bow down and obey. But that may take practice, and that’s okay. We’re not earning love. We’re not earning salvation. We’re learning to grow up as responsible stewards for what we think and feel and do. Agreed?

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: He’s for our success. And so, Sy, don’t offer the parts of your body as instruments of unrighteousness as you use to, and the real members here that are sexual are not my private parts, it’s probably my imagination, the last bastion to surrender. In fact, you know that old song, I Surrender All, should be retitled, I Surrender Incrementally at Best.

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: But God will take that. He’s in it for the long haul. And then, 1 Corinthians, chapter six, “Hey, Sy, your body belongs to me. Uh, you claim my name. I claim your body for my dwelling place.” Therefore, he goes on to say, “Do not misuse it sexually.” So it becomes incumbent upon me to find out what is God’s definition of misusing my body sexually. Not what I think, not what my culture thinks. My culture changes its opinion all the time. But God’s got a transcendent truth of wisdom that if I walk on it, it will benefit me. I will not hurt you, and I will walk forward in a greater freedom, than if I bow down to my flesh.

Audience: Yeah. Woo.

Sy: You are the temple of the Holy Spirit. And finally Ephesians 4, “Put off your old, corrupted self, Sy.” The inference is, I’m not judging you that you have a corrupted self. We’re just owning the truth. Put it off, and then in its place, put on the new and better way. You see, part of this problem that keeps us struggling and limits our freedom is because we have trained our brains towards bent forms of pleasure. The brain loves pleasure. God made it that way. You like chocolate?

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: Even if you never eat it again, your brain will never forget you loved it.

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: And given a chance, you would return to it, because your brain loves pleasure, and sex is very pleasurable. Both physically and emotionally. And so your brain doesn’t care if you were naughty before Christ, sleeping around and crossing boundaries. Your brain only recognizes, “That brought me pleasure,” and so now that you’re wanting to walk seriously with God, you know morally you ought not to do it, but the want to do it remains in your brain, and this creates a conflict called the war with the flesh. But not this flesh, the problem is the pattern in your brain. Because the blood of Jesus washes away guilt, not chemically reinforced patterns. But if I can train my brain in ways that are self-defeating, I can retrain that brain in ways that work in my favor and take me down a path of freedom. So it’s kind of like this, if I built a freeway that takes me to a self-defeating destination, that freeway will never be dismantled in my brain, but I can take an off ramp called however, and not arrive there, but arrive at another location like this.

Audience: Yeah. Woo.

Sy: I’m so mad, I could slap your face off. However-

Audience: Woo! (laughs)

Sy: The Bible says not to give full bent to my anger.

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: That might even be more regrettable than being mad right now, so I’m gonna calm down. We’ll have a chat, and I’m gonna talk to my lawyer. Or-

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: I’m so scared. I don’t know what to do. I feel overwhelmed. However, God is with me. He will help me.

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: And he puts skin on, and I’m gonna call a friend, and I’m gonna get some reality check here, ’cause I’m not perceiving this very well. I may be afraid. However, I can reckon with it instead of it reckoning with me.

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: Or… All those years of theater finally paid off.

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: I’m so lonely and so horny, and I really, really hate this feeling. However, I am not gonna go to the bar and get drunk and hook up because that’ll make me feel worse. I’m gonna call God. I’m gonna talk to Him, and I’m gonna get a reminder that he loves me, and then I’m gonna call my accountability partner, and I’m gonna arrive at a better place, and not be exploited. That is how you put off the old, by putting on the new, through the powerful pivot called however. I get to own one truth, and then I pivot toward the bigger, better truth. Not too late to retrain that brain.

John: You’re listening to Pastor Sy Rogers today on Focus on the Family. And we have a CD of this entire presentation, both parts, yesterday and today. And we’re making that available to you as you donate to the work of Focus on the Family. Uh, make a monthly pledge, or a one gift of any amount, when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Or you can contribute to the ministry and request that CD at focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. Let’s go ahead and return now to more from Pastor Sy Rogers.

Sy: I remember the Christian who came to me one time, the married man who said, “Pastor Sy, is adultery always wrong?

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: I said, “You’re not wanting to be philosophical, are you?”

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: I said, “What happened?” And he said, “Well, you know, my wife and I don’t love each other anymore, but my secretary and I just have this anointed connection, and we’re in a relationship, and I wanted to know you’re thinking, that is adultery always wrong?” And I said, “Well, you know, uh, fair enough. Sometimes we have to chew through the word to kind of get to what God is saying, but I thought He was clear on this one.”

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: You know, it’s like, in the 10 commandments, don’t do that. And there’s no asterisk at the end of the command saying, “Adultery may be permitted under these circumstances.” (laughs)

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: Now, look. As you and I would agree, adultery is no laughing matter ’cause it hurts people. That’s why God has parameters around our feelings and our sexuality, ’cause He doesn’t want us to hurt ourselves and other people. But you know, at the same time, I have seen marriages burn to the ground that have been restored out of adultery, ’cause God can redeem everything we give Him. And even if the marriage doesn’t survive, the individuals involved can be plucked from the fire, and they can be recalibrated with newer, healthier foundations, and they can grow forward in God’s redemption because He redeems everything we give him. He writes redemption over mistakes. King David, Samson, sexual misadventure, anointing and appointing did not stop them, but they came to their senses, returned to the Father who restored anointing and appointing, speaking to us in the 21st century, that God’s ability to redeem our mistakes and misadventures is bigger than our ability to make them, so always run back to Him. In fact, that brings us to this idea about dealing with the devil. The real issue here, I said to this man, “I wish you’d just tell me the truth. Fact of the matter is, you’re willing to trade away the life you’ve lived, and, and your marriage because your heart and your flesh want this other woman. That’s the truth. But when you’re trying to rationalize it, I’m concerned. Because when you’re saying, ‘Did God really say I can’t have it?’ You’re hearkening back to a voice in the garden that got the mess started.”

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: “So there’s nothing wrong with using your good critical thinking skills to find out if what God said is true, but when you’re wanting to rationalize, “Is a God of love going to deny me something so satisfying and loving? And if love is love, and God is love, then how can this be boundary crossing?” And so you got to be careful who you’re listening to, and that’s why God invites us into a posture of submission. It is not a one-off event. When we get saved, that is the beginning of an initiated posture of bowing to Him instead of other things. So I’m not bowing to the voice of the devil, who lacerates me with the words of the bully that make me feel inadequate and inferior. Because they may call my name, but God calls my name, and I’m bowing to His words of life. I’m no longer bowing to the idea of a dysfunctional family trying to put qualifications above me so that I’ll ever measure up and be, uh, you know, adequate enough. Instead, God has given me a different standard, and He is backing me with His love, and I’m bowing to Him. And when Satan calls my name, in that dark garden, I am reminded of Jesus, who was the second Adam, in the second garden, called Gethsemane. And the first Adam failed in the first garden, but Jesus was under the pressure of his life not to bow down. He did not say in that garden, “Hallelujah, I’m about to be crucified and tortured for these things I did not do, but the will of God, bring it on.” He said, “Get me out of this. I don’t want my flesh to be persecuted.” But then he changed the history of the universe, your life and mine, when He said, “In spite of what my flesh wants, in spite of my fear, in spite of wanting to indulge my own interests, I’m gonna bow to God’s interest,” and you and I are in the room because Jesus submitted to God when He did not want to. And in a less dramatic way, I am not the Christ, but I am His follower, and there have been times when Satan has put a target on my back. Don’t you think? Don’t you think he’d love to trip me up? Don’t you think he’d love to rub my face in all of that failure, so that he could say, “Aha,” as could my critics? But instead, there have been those times under pressure, and yet, I have a 37-year-old marriage. I am a daddy and a granddaddy, and I have a global ministry, because in spite of my flesh and all of its vulnerability, to me the path of freedom and the key that unlocked that door of freedom was bowing down to my God in my own dark garden when I didn’t want to. Saying no to this, enables me to be here saying yes to you.

Audience: Cheering.

Sy:  “Sy, you walk by the spirit, you will then therefore not satisfy the cravings of your flesh. You walk in freedom. You may have cravings, but if you submit to me and my word, then you will walk above it.” In other words, don’t just try to stop it. That’s not your goal. Your goal isn’t the negative, it’s the positive. If I’m walking with God, then I am fulfilling-

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: … the path of freedom. And I can say no to it. Finally. And there is a finally. Here, I find the biggest reason why people struggle sexually is because of history. They have been starved of love, and they’re hungry. They’re hungry to be loved. And many times, people have been wounded. Can I tell you that when I came to Christ, I walked away from the only bread I had ever known. And I don’t know, you think I’m a strong cup of coffee today, you should have been in the skin of the men and women in that church 40 years ago. And they would have felt inadequate to know what to do, but they loved me well, and it was especially the men in my church. My problem wasn’t with girls. I understood masculine attraction to the feminine, but before boys grow up into men who have the capacity to rightly love women, they have to bond with their own gender to properly form secure identity, and I had missed out. One childhood robbed me. And I now had a new father in a new family with a new opportunity to have the blank spots filled, that I could grow forward. That’s why it’s relationships that save you. It isn’t going to be rules and rituals, it’s gonna be re- relationship. God and God with skin on. This communion and this communion. Jesus paid a high price that I could feed my need with the good bread.

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: And so the men in my church, they held me, they hugged me, they loved me, they touched me. They took me to the men’s camp, the ministry, the men’s Bible study, and the men’s breakfast, and they proved to me I had value to them, and it did not have to include exploitation, and it changed my life.

Audience: Woo.

Sy: Finally, the healing of the soul, God knows how. It took God 10 years before He put His finger on the issue of my childhood sex abuse. I finally grew to a point of maturity, stability, where that addressing could be productive. And I went to a therapist, and he helped me walk through, like God with skin on. I had the support of friends and family, colleagues too. But I had a professional help me map out the way forward, that I could walk in freedom today. And one day the Holy Spirit said to me, “Your Daddy sees this, and your Daddy’s sorry, and He wept and broke over what had been taken from me.” You know why that mattered, ladies? Out of a billion things God could have said or thought to do, I had never known that my suffering mattered to anybody. And when God let me know it mattered to Him because I mattered to Him, that was more powerful than being wounded, was being wanted, and given justice before him. And He wept over me, and no one had ever wept over me. He didn’t take away my history to make it painless. Instead, He entered into my pain and carried it with me forward up and out of a ditch of distrust. And there He turned a wound not just into a thing that had crippled my ability to love and trust, and He allowed me not just to survive it, but then I began to heal, and then I began to thrive, and He turned the wound into a great big wellspring for a global ministry that makes the devil pay for ever having conspired to rip me off, and He will let you walk in that freedom.

Audience: Woo! Woo!

Sy: He says in Psalm 1:07, “I satisfy your craving the right way.” And in Ecclesiastes, chapter eight, “It is going to happen for you that healing, but the wise will understand, there’s a time and a purpose for everything, even if right now it seems to weigh heavily upon you. That’s not the permanent condition. God will lead you in freedom, His way and time.” So on that night, I will conclude. But I will conclude it with this. In LA, I was doing a message, and we had a time for questions and answers, and people wrote their questions down. Remember that? On paper, with, like, a writing instrument?

Audience: (laughs)

Sy: And the question filtered its way up to me, and this is the beautiful thing in the question. He said, “Dear Pastor Sy, I grew up in a Christian family, but I did not want the faith of my parents, and I thought I knew what would make me happy. So I wondered away from faith, but now these years later, I find myself in a very dark place. What would you tell me to do?” I thought about it. And I said to him, kind of like an instinctive reaction as a daddy, I said, “I know what I’d say. If you were my kid, I would say, ‘Come home. We can figure all this other stuff out in due course. But first, won’t you come home?’”

Audience: Yeah.

Sy: Because that’s the path of freedom. This is the path of what it means to be a believer. You’re gonna depend on God to bring you through. You’re gonna discern his voice above all the others. You’re gonna learn to grow up and possess your mind and body responsibly. You will walk out a path of freedom through submission to Him, instead of submitting to other things, and therefore you will find greater connection and communion from Him and with God with skin on in the family and faith, and that will bring you through. In spite of all the risks out there, and the vulnerabilities in here, that will be the path of freedom for you, at least that’s what’s worked for me, and it’s been my pleasure to invest it. Let’s pray. Lord Jesus-

Audience: Woo!

Sy: Thank You for your faithful love to us. Thank you that You understand us. And that You have compassion on us, and that You are bigger than any vulnerability or weakness that is present in our lives. You would rather have us messy than not at all, and you won’t leave us messy. You are going to walk us, escort us, and live in us, and take us as the good shepherd to the good destination of greater freedom, beginning even this conference, and forward for the rest of the lives of these women. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Audience: Woo!

John: Pastor Sy Rogers has been our guest the last couple of episodes of Focus on the Family.

Jim: Wow, John, uh, Pastor Sy is really a great example of how the Lord can change a life. From molested child to promiscuous homosexual, to a 40-year ministry providing hope to those who struggle with their sexuality, Sy Rogers really made an impact on this world. And let me remind you, Sy talked about seeing a therapist to address his early abuse. That’s such an important step toward healing. And if you are in a similar situation, please give us a call. One of our wonderful counselors would count it a privilege to spend time with you on the phone, and even refer you to a like-minded Christian counselor right in your area.

John: And we have so much help that’s just a phone call away. 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459. Uh, when you call, just, uh, request a call back from one of those counselors. You could also reach out via our website, which is focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Pastor Sy also addressed adultery, and how marriages can be saved in spite of that terrible situation. So if that’s your story, please, uh, let us help you. You can talk to one of our counselors, and we’d also strongly recommend our Hope Restored four-day intensives, which have an 80% post two-year success rate. Um, here’s a note we received from Sonia. She said, “I have been so blessed by Focus on the Family. My husband and I were at the end of our rope. But we attended Hope Restored, and it was a wonderful experience. We received a scholarship to attend, and I’d like to donate today because our marriage is better than ever. Thank you to the donors who make Hope Restored possible.”

John: I love hearing stories like that, Jim. And of course, they happen every week, it seems. Uh, folks whose lives were changed by Hope Restored.

Jim: Well, and I want to amplify what she said there so accurately, that it’s the donors that make that happen. It’s so true. Uh, but to keep going, we need to your help. Please consider making a monthly pledge to Focus on the Family. It doesn’t have to be a large amount. It’s the consistency that really helps us month to month. And when you make a pledge of any amount, I’d like to send you the CD of this two-part presentation from Sy Rogers, as our way of saying, “Thank you.” And if you can’t make a monthly pledge, uh, we understand that. We can also send you the CD for a one-time gift of any amount. The bottom line is, join us in ministry today.

John: And you can do that when you call 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY. 800-232-6459, or donate online, and request that CD at focusonthefmaily.com/broadcast. Coming up next time on Focus on the Family. We’re gonna offer help for parents when your child is ill.

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Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!