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Establishing Healthy Boundaries With Adult Children (Part 1 of 2)

Establishing Healthy Boundaries With Adult Children (Part 1 of 2)

Allison Bottke shares a dramatic story of raising an adult son who has struggled with drug addiction, multiple arrests, and imprisonment. She is quick to admit to her mistakes of enabling her son over the years, and shares stories of other parents who have unwittingly crossed the line of “helping” to enabling their adult children. (Part 1 of 2)
Original Air Date: February 28, 2022

Allison Bottke: I bought a life insurance policy for my son when he was 25, 26 years old, so I could afford to bury him because I knew he wasn’t gonna live. I knew he was gonna die. He was gonna kill himself. Drugs, motorcycle, something. So I’m thinking proactively, what can I do? Okay, I can’t, I can’t afford to bury him, I better pay for this life insurance policy. And I remember sitting there thinking, this is just not how it’s supposed to be. This is not how parenting is supposed to be.

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John Fuller: Hmm. That’s Allison Bottke describing one of the more extreme challenges that moms and dads may face with their adult kids, especially when there’s a lack of healthy boundaries within a family. I’m John Fuller, and Allison is our guest today on Focus on the Family. Your host is Focus President and author Jim Daly.

Jim Daly: John, a significant, uh, part of what we do every day here at Focus is to encourage and empower parents, and we wanna help you. That’s the bottom line. Mom and dad, we’re here for you as you partner with God to do the best job possible with your children. And now we’re aware that some family situations are more difficult than others, and we often hear from you about where your children are at, especially the 20, 30 somethings, adult children who, uh, maybe launched well, maybe haven’t launched so well. Maybe they didn’t get accepted into college. Or maybe they’re in a slump with the job market. Or maybe there’s been an issue through the teen years and that has now imploded in their 20s. Whatever it might be, we’re here for you.

John: And this is a concern, adult kids. Uh, this is something every parent can relate to at some point in time. The fear that my child is going to fail to launch, um, they’re going to get stuck somewhere in their transition to adulthood. We all know families where the adult kids are still living at home and the parents are still wondering, will they ever leave or like my family, it’s been a revolving door. They leave and then they come back and then they leave again. It can be a trying time.

Jim: Yeah. Maybe your young adult or someone you know as a young adult is a prodigal or they’re choosing a lifestyle that’s contrary to how you raised them, that often is the conflict. There may be addiction or something worse, whatever the issue is, we know it’s breaking your heart as a parent. And again, we at Focus are here to help. Today, we’re going to explore how you can love those adult children well, even when it’s hard going through it. Our guest is Allison Bottke, and she has firsthand experience in this area. Her personal story is dramatic, and while some details may not directly apply to your situation, she has some great parenting advice and wisdom to share with all of us.

John: Mm-hmm. And Allison is a popular author and speaker. She’s written more than 32 books, and the one we’re going to be referring to today is called Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children. Six Steps to Hope and Healing for Struggling Parents. Get in touch for a copy and let us know if we can be of any help. We do have caring Christian counselors here as well. Our number is 800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast.

Jim: Allison, welcome to Focus on the Family. Welcome back, really.

Allison: Thank you. Thanks for having me back.

Jim: It’s good to have you back. Um, let’s start with that failure to launch concept. Um, we’re seeing that is growing in our culture today. Why do you think this is a growing problem for today’s families?

Allison: Well, a lot of it’s financial. You know, the the the financial challenges that young people have on the outside, whether they’ve not budgeted well, and that happens a lot. They don’t know how to live, they don’t know how to financially budget their their their life. So they they come back home and it’s, you know, it’s it becomes so easy. Parents have allowed this. And why not if, why not go back home? if I’m going to have my rent paid and my electricity bills and food, and somebody is going to cook for me. And it’s a it’s a double edge sword here.

Jim: We know all parents, I think, have that, especially with your junior and senior in high school. I mean, I’m in that spot right now. I’ve got a senior in high school, and I thankfully have one who’s two years into his journey with college. But you do begin to wonder, are we going to get there? Is it, has it, how’s that launch platform going to go? You know, the steam and the combustible engines and all those things you need.

Allison: And it may not even be that there’s a failure to launch, it’s just a shift in our economy, a shift in lifestyle. It’s not always a bad thing to have adult children living at home. If it’s an equitable situation, if it’s everyone’s helping each other and boundaries aren’t being stepped on, you know we spent generations just to live together. You know, multi-generations. So it’s only been in modern times that these kids, you know, are are pushed out like this. You know, we expect them to be out on their own. Some instances that might not be a possibility.

Jim: And I appreciate that, and we’re going to talk more about how to create something that’s constructive for everybody.

Allison: That’s the key.

Jim: But we want to talk about the issues before that, you know, and sometimes parents can create this problem, at least contribute to it, correct?

Allison: Absolutely.

Jim: I mean, that that’s uh, certainly something that can happen and and you can actually cause things to go, um, worse than you anticipated. How do parents contribute negatively to their children’s failure to launch?

Allison: They become that safe landing place for them and don’t want them to feel pain.

Jim: That sounds so right though.

Allison: So it’s yeah, it’s exa- exactly, exactly. But it’s not helpful. Everything good grows out of pain. Like physical therapy. You’re not going to get healthier if you’ve got an injured bone till you go through physical therapy and it’s painful. Life spurts, growing is painful sometimes. How else do we learn consequences? This is really the key that parents are challenged with. They don’t allow their children to experience the consequences of their actions.

Jim: You’ve got a couple of stories in this way. I think you call it enabling parents in training. So what, what are those stories? Just get our listeners and viewers up to speed.

Allison: You know, I think finding myself dealing with boundaries as much as I do, I’m very aware when boundaries are an issue. I was at a store once and saw a woman who is obviously frazzled. I could say that a customer was in front of her. She could have got rid of her, and I was standing there. And I said, Are you okay? And just to say that she

Jim: Lost it?

Allison: Yes. And she’s no, I’m not. I’m so mad. I’m so mad. I’m so angry. And she just started talking about her family and her kids, and she loans them money and they don’t pay her back and they’ll say, can I borrow a 10, she gives them a 20 and never sees change. And I asked questions. I said, why do you do that? If he is consistently doing that, why do you continue to give him money? Well, because one of the excuses. Well, and her husband was the same. He didn’t clean. He didn’t help in the house. She’s working. They owned the business. It was just a litany of anger and resentment.

Jim: That’s like resentment, yes.

Allison: Resentment, anger, and when it comes down to it, I said, well, you can make different choices. And she kind of looked at me and it went like right over her head that she could do anything different was hard for her to realize.

Jim: What did you have in mind for her?

Allison: I would think, sanity, she needed sanity. She needed to stop doing what she was doing and really get around some supportive people to talk about this. Otherwise she’s, I don’t know what’s going to happen, who knows whether she’s going to burn out or I don’t know what the children were like if there were at all respectful or dangerous.

Jim: Right. What’s the other story?

Allison: So I was standing in line at a sandwich shop and there was a mom and a son in front of me, and he was, I would say, maybe 17.

Jim: Yeah.

Allison: I don’t know, it was hard to tell, but he had a coupon in his hand, he was reading it, and he couldn’t understand really what what it meant. And I heard him talk to her and he said, what do you suppose this means for the sandwich? She said, well, I don’t know when you get up there, ask him. So I’m watching them, and they get up to the counter. And he speaks up, he started to speak up and said, you know, what does this… And she jumped right in and

Jim: Took over.

Allison: And took over the whole conversation, and I watched him physically just shrink.

Jim: Yeah.

Allison: And my heart ached for him, too. I thought, mom, you’re giving mixed messages here. You’re telling him, go ahead and ask, which is good. This is how he learns. And yet you don’t trust him enough. Or maybe is it trust? What is the issue? You don’t think he can speak for himself that you just are in such a hurry that you wanna just… what, I don’t know what it is. So, so but I saw that and thought, boy, that young man now is learning and how many times has she done that? So how hard will it be for him to launch, to trust so that he knows what to ask or to do?

Jim: Uh, Allison, let’s get that definition of enabling versus helping. I mean, I think with parents, that’s where that tough line is, and I don’t even know if there’s a clear distinction. But what would you suggest to parents to understand what is helpful help and what is enabling or counterproductive help?

Allison: I’ve always said that helping is doing something for someone that they can’t do for themselves, so you help them. Enabling is doing something for someone that they can and frankly should be doing for themselves.

Jim: Right.

Allison: You know, I often use the example of a young child learning to tie their shoes. You know, you’re helping them by tying it for them and and and showing them how to do this. But if they’re 10, 12 years old and just don’t want to tie their shoes and you’re bending down to tie their shoes for them, something is wrong with this picture.

Jim: Right.

Allison: So they they can do it on their own. So it’s really looking at what they are capable of doing. And this is a big issue, we don’t really know what our kids are capable of doing because we’ve done it for them so often.

Jim: Yeah, and you know, some listeners, they’re probably they may have 20 something kids and they’re doing well, they’re off to college or whatever it might be. I want to kind of give a contour of this out of the statistics. I think Pew Research Center in 2016 identified that 15% of 25- to 35-year-old millennials were living in their parents’ homes, which was a higher rate than generation Xers in 2000. Between 2005 and 2010, more than 20% of 25-year-old high school graduates who never attended college were not employed or in the military. For those with some college, employment rates were slightly higher. But basically, it’s like an 80-20 rule. There’s about 20% of 20-somethings that aren’t launching well. Does that sound about right?

Allison: It does, and a lot of it, I keep coming back to that, financial issues, a lot of them are, education is expensive, so they may not be able to have afford to live on their own.

Jim: Sure.

Allison: However, the caveat to that is a lot of these young people are, you know, driving very fancy vehicles that they’ve managed to pay for and very fancy electronic devices. And, you know, so parents are funding a lifestyle. And that’s the problem, and it doesn’t always happen that way. Like I said, there are parents that understand those boundaries and the kids are home and for whatever reason, again, whether it’s financial, maybe it’s emotional. Maybe they’ve had a breakup. You know, young people, especially these young men I’m learning, they have breakups that devastate them, whether it’s a divorce or just, you know, a breakup with from a girlfriend, it’s…

Jim: Yeah. You know, Allison, so often the older I get, the simpler some things get. When I look at scripture and I see the metaphors of what God is talking to us about. He uses marriage as a metaphor. He’s the bride, we’re the bridegroom, those kinds of things. And specifically when I look at parenting, of course, we’re made in his image. So my thought is some of our desires are from God’s heart. And then some of those things that are maybe unhealthy or from the sin that enters our heart in this world, right? So when I look at the parenting approach, I feel like when we’re trying to give good things to our children, that is uh, a personality of God. In other words, it says in scripture, He too wants to give good things to his children. But there is also this side of God that he allows us to go through valleys to grow, to gain wisdom, to better appreciate the good things that we have in life when they come our way. How do we, as parents, pull back from the rescue mentality? I mean, oftentimes think about it spiritually. We will pray God help us out of the situation, and then we’re frustrated that God has not helped us out of that situation. We might even go as far as asking, Are you truly there, God? Don’t you know this situation that I’m in? And like a good parent he’s yeah, but I think you’re going to learn something good through this. You allude to that in parenting, but it’s so hard for us to let our adult children, particularly again, 20, 30 somethings walk through a valley where they’ve got to figure out how to get out of it. Even though we can jump in, we can help them out of our retirement account. If it’s financial, we can help them. But restraint is often the wiser choice.

Allison: Yes, it is. And that’s where we need people around us to hold us accountable, to that we can really share these challenges that we have with. Um, and if it’s a hole in our heart that we’re trying to fill, we’ve got to look at that and pray for wisdom and discernment to shine the light on us. And that’s the key right there to be able to see how to respond to your child the positive way, you really have to turn the light on you and say, what is it about me, God? Instead of praying, oh, let me, my son needs this, or my daughter needs this, or how do I… Its Lord give me the insight and the wisdom to know what I have to change about myself.

Jim: Yes, but I’m getting more to… I’m thinking more of the allowing your children to suffer consequences for their decisions, and that should really start when they’re young. But we bail them out because we want to see suffer.

Allison: And why do we bail them out? It’s because there’s something. We haven’t learned the right parenting skills in many, many, many instances. You know, a lot of a lot of us don’t know what, you know, this is a job that we don’t even get education for. Parents just are dropped into parenthood.

Jim: Allison, it’s hard. I’ve got to tell you. You’re calloused as a mom if you’re not going to bail… He’s supposed to bring brownies to the school luncheon. And you didn’t make em.

Allison: Exactly. Boy, it’s and the guilt? Don’t we have guilt, you know? And that’s that’s a whole another story. How to get over the guilt and the fear.

John: Yeah, this is Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. Our guest is Allison Bottke and she’s written this great book, Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children. And we’ve got copies of that. Stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast or call 1-800, the letter A, and the word FAMILY.

Jim: You know, I think it’s really helpful for people to understand from your own experience. You know the things that God taught you. Help us understand the background of factors that led to the troubles that you experienced with your son. You’ve stated it started with your your own rough upbringing. What happened for you? What were those triggers for you?

Allison: For me, I was raised in a very poor family as well. My parents were divorced. My, I had a single mom and three siblings. I was the middle child. I was the (sigh) middle child.

John: You were the the overlooked child.

Allison: Yeah, I know. I laugh about it, yeah. But I didn’t know I was poor. You know, you don’t know you’re poor when there’s other things. And my mom was a great provider. But but she got very sick, and I was sent to foster care and during foster care, I was abused and beaten. My brother was too, so it was a horrible situation. We were gone. She was in the hospital for two weeks and we were in a foster home for two weeks.

Jim: Just two weeks.

Allison: Just two weeks, but had had the police not found me, it is, my foster parents left my brother and I in an abandoned house. They were gone.

Jim: How old are you at this point?

Allison: I was five years old.

Jim: Yeah. And your brother was younger?

Allison: My brother was a couple of months old in a, in a crib. They found me locked underneath the stairwell and my eyes were punched shut. I I don’t remember any of this, but I had to fear the dark, horrible fear of the dark.

Jim: Sure.

Allison: And I really grew up not understanding why, where that fear came from, but also being in a broken home, you know, that that love of a father was really, we all need that, and I didn’t have that from an earthly father, and I didn’t grow up in a Christian family, so I didn’t have that love of a heavenly father. And I wanted to fill that with something. So I was one of those, you know, young people that went off and ran away and got married.

Jim: You were very young.

Allison: I was 15 years old.

John: Oh, really?

Allison: And it was because I knew I was strong-willed, um, I knew that this is what I wanted to do. This man was a wonderful human being. He was, you know, we belong together.

Jim: This man who was 16?

Allison: Actually, he was 18.

Jim: Okay.

Allison: He was older man.

Jim: Right.

Allison: The older man in, it was a nightmare. He turned out to be incredibly abusive.

Jim: Right.

Allison: Um, the first time he hit me was the day we were married, and I thought, whoa, wait a minute. What is happening here? So my whole life in issues was all caught up in how I responded to people and how I needed and wanted love and how I perceived love, what that was to me and control, it was a big issue. Being able to, you know, be, so out of control with that with abuse, so it’s a horrible thing to experience that and be able to become strong enough to get out of that relationship. And I had my son, I had my son when I was 16, and I and I vowed I was going to be, you know, a great mom and take care of him and do everything I, you know, could to take care of him. And to me that equated to money. It was a lot of it was equated to money.

Jim: Yeah, and Allison, I can imagine. I mean, my heart goes out to you because of those experiences. No child should ever experience that. And seriously I, but it does create some formative inputs for you. And I can only imagine, you know, your greatest goal as a mom was not to let your son suffer in any way.

Allison: Exactly. And that’s a lot-

Jim: And so, and so the basis is right, but then the outcome can be really wrong, right?

Allison: Exactly. And its amazing how many parents do have skeletons in their closet as young people. We aren’t, we don’t all grow up in perfect families and how we become parents and how we learn that role is very tied into our youth, how we were raised, what, what, what we’re feeling or not feeling in our heart.

Jim: Going back to that question of enabling versus helping in a loving way, what were those things specifically with your son that you think back on now that you enabled him, that it actually worked against him?

Allison: For me, I think it was making excuses, making excuses for the trouble he was getting into and the-

Jim: What did that sound like in your head when he got into trouble? What did you say to yourself?

Allison: Well, we were living in Southern California, Huntington Beach. He was a young kid that got caught up in the punk crowd and the very anarchistic movement. You know, it was all anti-establishment and he would get thrown out of school. He’d play hooky. I’d make excuses. Well, you know, the teachers don’t understand him, or they don’t really appreciate his intellect. Or they, I mean, I’d just say…

Jim: Well, these are things that all of us as parents do. I mean, that’s why I wanted to express them.

Allison: I think to some extent we all do, but not… That’s a hard one because I think a lot of parents don’t have that back- you know, the history that I have, but a lot of a lot of them have gone through some painful things. So they’re compensating somehow and that you-

Jim: Well, you wanna be understanding.

Allison: You know, oh, well, yes, there you go. You got it. So for me, that excuses was a big thing for me.

Jim: What was the breaking point between you and your son? What was that incident that arrested your attention? And then you went, oh, oh, we’ve got a lot of work in front of us.

Allison: Arrested. That’s a good term, arrested, ’cause my son was arrested and it was New Year’s Eve. Actually a little back, he had a horrible motorcycle accident, almost killed himself. He was metal pins in his arms and in his leg. He was lucky to be alive and got caught back up in the drug movement. But see, again, it was pain. It was pain management. Opioids were so prescribed. So there he is, back into drugs again. Uh, and the SWAT team broke into his house and arrested him. And I get a call because I, my name was on his lease. I paid for the house for a lease. I put my name on it and it was a nightmare when I walked into that house after a SWAT team, you don’t even… You see it on TV, but you can’t comprehend what it’s like in reality. And the house itself was a trash can. I mean, there were just bottles everywhere. It was New Year’s Eve. There was a bit of party there, um, but it was. I walked in there, I thought, this is no human being should live like this. But then the connection to me really was that I put my name on the lease. I pay for this. It’s not, this mess I’m looking at, I’m financially liable.

Jim: So that’s one enabling right there.

Allison: Oh my gosh. Big, big- And that woke me up in a way that, you know, I don’t know that I have a really realized before. You know, standing there at the sink, dumping out liquor into a sink, looking out this window that was broken because that’s where they threw the smoke bomb in the window. The whole house smelled acrid, like like chemicals from from the SWAT teams. It was crazy. And I’m thinking, how does somebody live like this? You know, and that connection was just so hard for me to make that Chris was back into this lifestyle again. Why couldn’t he get off that gerbil wheel? But it wasn’t just why couldn’t he get off the gerbil wheel? Why couldn’t I get off of it? And I realized at that point I had to stop. I had to completely stop. And that’s my sanity steps came in. I had to stop doing what I was doing and figure out why I was doing it and no, no more focusing on him. I wasn’t going to bail him out, either. There was, that was the last time I bailed him out.

Jim: I think, you know, that’s where we’re gonna come back next time and speak to those things that you learned, the acronym sanity and what that stands for. And that’s really the basis of your book, trying to help parents be better equipped than you were as they begin to face these difficulties with their, I would say, a co-dependent adult children and what what they’re, you know, what they’re getting out of the relationship with mom and dad. So let’s do that at the end here, Allison, without knowing those things, I’m mindful that we have pretty much ripped the band aid off of some parents that are listening, that they have that 20-something child, and perhaps it is a prodigal child. Perhaps it is, uh, related to drug abuse or some of those extreme behavioral things that some people get themselves into, particularly in their 20s. And what word would you have for them? It’s before you had your moment, your realization that I’ve got to change direction. God, I need your help. What would you say to that parent that is listening going, wow, okay, I need change.

Allison: I I I would say that one word is hope. Never give up hope. There’s, you can change, your child can change. God is beyond capable of taking care of this nightmare that you’re in. So hang on to that hope. Realize that if we have hearts filled with hope, no- nothing’s impossible. So we just can’t give up hope. And that’s it. We get so frustrated and fearful and just tired. Parents get tired. So, um, especially at this time, 20s. It, chances are this didn’t just happen overnight, that they’re having challenges with their, whether it’s a dysfunctional child. Failure to launch child. A troubled child. This isn’t an overnight thing. So it’s been going on for a while and we’re just get tired, and we want to give up. So I would say just hang on to hope that anything’s possible.

Jim: What did you do specifically when you felt you were leaning into hopelessness, though? There had to be those nights when you’re laying your head on your pillow and you’re saying to God, I don’t wanna assume so correct me if I’m wrong. But Lord, I don’t see hope here.

Allison: Absolutely. And and it was hard, um, just to say, I just I just can’t deal this is. I bought a life insurance policy for my son when he was 25, 26 years old, so I could afford to bury him, because I knew he wasn’t going to live. I knew he was gonna die. He was going to kill himself. Drugs, motorcycle, something. So I’m thinking proactively, what can I do? Okay, I can’t, I can’t afford to bury him. I better pay for this life insurance policy. And I remember sitting there thinking, this is just not how it’s supposed to be. This is not how parenting is supposed to be.

Jim: Hmm.

Allison: And realizing that, okay, I had to shine again, that’s where I had to shine the light back on me. Why am I doing this? It’s not so much why, why our kids are doing the things they’re doing? That’s important, but how have we contributed to this? What is it that we have to do? What is it that we have to change to be able to have hope, to be able to help these kids in a helpful way and be able to separate… It’s a separation because we’re just, you know, we’re still connected to these kids, you know, and, um, there’s got to be that separation.

Jim: Yeah. No, I so appreciate that Allison and your heart and I see the tears and, you know, it’s still raw. And that’s appreciated by the people that are suffering and going through it right now. And I love the idea, hang on to hope that’s all you’ve got. And let’s come back next time and cover the steps and the ideas that brought you even greater hope, uh, than simply buying an insurance policy, right. Allison, thanks so much. And I hope, um, if this is an area that you’re living in or you know somebody who is living in this space as the parent of an adult child who’s struggling, call us, get a copy of the book. We’d love for you to be a part of the ministry to help other families. If you can join us in that way, either with a monthly gift or a one-time gift will send you a copy of Allison’s book as our way of saying thank you for being part of the ministry. If you can’t afford it, the content is so important, I believe, to put help into your hands. Just get in touch with us, we’ll get you a copy of the book, we’ll trust other people will take care of the expense of that. And boy, the the main point here is if you are in trouble, call us. We have a great counseling team who can help you, who can talk with you about what you’re, um, seeing and what you’re experiencing, so you can find, hopefully godly equilibrium and good ideas on how to move forward.

John: Yeah, don’t go this journey alone. Our number is 800-A-FAMILY, 800-232-6459 or stop by focusonthefamily.com/broadcast. And on behalf of Jim Daly and the entire team, thanks for joining us today for this episode of Focus on the Family. Plan to be back with us next time as Allison continues sharing her story and insights and we once more help you and your family thrive in Christ.

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Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

How a Former Abortion Doctor Became Pro-Life

As an abortion doctor at Planned Parenthood, Dr. Patti Giebink believed she was helping women. Later, she began reading scripture and God gradually changed her heart on the abortion issue. Patti tells the story of her long journey from abortion doctor to pro-life and encourages listeners to share the message of life with compassion.

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Mrs. Patti Giebink

Dr. Patti Giebink is an OB-GYN who serves on the board of the Alpha Center, a well-known pregnancy center located in Sioux Falls, S.D. She also travels intermittently to work in mission hospitals in Pakistan and other countries. After completing her medical training, Dr. Giebink worked for Planned Parenthood from 1995-1997, during which she was the only abortion-provider in the state of South Dakota. She eventually experienced a radical change of heart on the issue of abortion after receiving God’s grace, forgiveness, and love, and she is now a passionate advocate for the pro-life movement.

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Unexpected Choice: An Abortion Doctor’s Journey to Pro-Life

Unexpected Choice is told from the perspective of a doctor who actually performed abortions through Planned Parenthood. The book chronicles her journey from being a pro-choice physician to someone speaking on behalf of the pro-life movement.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 2

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

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Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

Cherishing Your Spouse Every Day

Do you love your spouse, or do you truly cherish them? Gary Thomas encourages couples to make a daily effort to go beyond the ‘duty’ of love, and combat the natural inclination to drift apart, by choosing to see the best in their spouse.

Mr. Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas is an international speaker and best-selling, award-winning author whose books include Married SexSacred Marriage and Sacred Parenting. He has also written numerous articles for several prominent national magazines. Gary and his wife, Lisa, reside in Texas and have three children. You can learn more about Gary by visiting his website, www.garythomas.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

“Most marriages survive by gritting teeth and holding on. But marriages can and will not only survive but thrive when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another.” Those are the powerful words of bestselling author Gary Thomas in his newest book–Cherish. And in a world desperate for marriage redemption, it is needed now more than ever. Thomas shows that although there are a countless number of marriages consisting of two people just going through the motions, there are real ways this pattern can be reversed: when husbands and wives learn to cherish one another in proven, loving, and everyday actions and words.

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Newest Release - Episode 2: Heroes Providing Hope

Discover the amazing work our PRC’s Directors, Nurses, and Volunteers are making in their communities! You’ll see firsthand testimonies of a PRC in action, and that there are other options outside of abortions! You’ll also discover how your family can support your local PRC!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 4: Sometimes the Choice is Hard

Hear real life stories of parents who have made the decision to choose life even though the circumstances were overwhelming. You’ll see why “ALL” life is precious to God and why choosing life is always the right decision!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 3: The Power of a Picture

Have you ever wondered what a baby looked like in the womb? With today’s technology, Moms and Dads can see the baby’s heartbeat, facial expressions, and movements! You’ll find out why more women choose life once they hear their baby’s heartbeat and realize it’s a real living human!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 5: It’s Going to be Amazing!

After a couple has chosen life, hear the heartwarming stories of children that culture would have cast aside, yet are making tremendous impacts in their communities. Whether the diagnosis was adverse or the circumstances were difficult, these stories will inspire you to come along side of families who have chosen life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

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Newest Release - Episode 6: Families Helping Families!

So, after all you’ve seen through the SeeLife ‘21 Episodic journey; what can you do now? We’ll share how you can partner with some amazing organizations that are making significant impacts in the pro-life movement! You want to Celebrate Life!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 2

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

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Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Effective Habits to Embrace in Parenting

To be an effective parent, you must be a leader in your child’s life, guiding with a gentle hand and setting a solid example. Dr. Randy Schroeder provides the insight you need to be a leader-parent. As he explores the foundational Rs—relationship, routines, responsibilities, and rules—you’ll better understand the role you play in your child’s life. You’ll learn great phrases to employ such as “Either/Or/You Decide” and “When You/Then You”. While there is no perfect parent, this nuts-and-bolts material will equip you to lead your child in a loving, confident manner.

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Dr. Randy Schroeder

Dr. Randy Schroeder has spent more than four decades writing, counseling, speaking, and teaching. For nearly 25 years, he was Vice President of Student Personnel Services, Dean of Students, and a professor of pastoral counseling at Concordia Theological Seminary in Fort Wayne, Ind. He’s also led a successful counseling practice helping individuals, couples, and families to thrive in their lives and relationships.

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Simple Habits for Effective Parenting

Effective parenting is now within your grasp! With this inspiring how-to comprehensive book, achieve extraordinary results in raising a child to be self-assured, self-reliant, and responsible! You will be able to successfully lead and lovingly encourage your child toward a Godly life!

The Spiritual Battle for Your Marriage

God designed marriage to reflect His love to the world; and because of this, the enemy wants to destroy God’s beautiful design. Based on his book, Defending Your Marriage, Dr. Tim and Noreen Muehlhoff share about the reality of spiritual warfare against marriages, and how to combat the enemy’s lies with the truth of God. Couples will be encouraged that they’re not alone in the fight for a godly marriage and better equipped to be a shining example for the world around them.

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Dr. Tim and Mrs. Noreen Muehlhoff

Dr. Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, apologetics, gender, and conflict resolution.  Tim and his wife, Noreen, are both on staff with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships  where he is a co-host of The Art of Relationship podcast. 

Defending Your Marriage

Is your marriage under attack? Sometimes it can feel like the world is trying to tear your marriage apart. Internal conflicts or external pressures might make you wonder if something sinister is going on. How can you tell if you’re facing spiritual opposition? And what can you do about it? Tim Muehlhoff provides a straightforward resource for protecting your marriage from the threats of the evil one. He looks at what Scripture says about spiritual warfare and how our everyday struggles have deeper spiritual realities. And he provides practical steps for guarding our marriages with the whole armor of God.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 1

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Reigniting Your Passion for Jesus - Part 2

For those of faith whose passion has waned over time, Kim Meeder will reinspire you in your relationship with Jesus Christ as she tells powerful, true stories about God that will spark renewed joy in your heart and encourage you to share the Gospel with others.

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Kim Meeder

Kim Meeder and her husband, Troy, are the co-founders of Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch, a non-profit organization in Bend, Oregon, that rescues abused horses and pairs them with hurting kids for mutual healing. Kim is a popular motivational speaker and the author of a half dozen books including Hope Rising and Bridge Called Hope, which feature inspirational stories from her ranch.

Revival Rising

With enthusiasm that will set ablaze your passion to reach the hurting, Kim Meeder encourages you to let the holy fire of God’s presence fill your heart, soul, mind and strength. As your fear and pride melt away, those around you who are losing their battle for hope will be transformed by encountering His redeeming love in you. This–this is revival rising.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 2

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage - Part 2

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

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Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

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Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 2

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

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Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

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Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Embracing Your Role as a Spouse

As a spouse, you have three roles to play—a friend, a partner, and a lover. On this one-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Pastor Kevin A. Thompson explores those different roles and challenges you to live them out by investing emotionally, physically, and mentally in your relationship. As friends, he suggests we learn to play and laugh together. As partners, he equips us with solid ways to handle conflict and communication. As lovers, he offers some thoughts on how to bring back the sizzle. He shares five keys to saving your marriage: humility, respect, mercy, communication, and resilience. You’ll be encouraged to intentionally invest in your marriage.

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Pastor Kevin Thompson

Kevin A. Thompson (MDiv, Beeson Divinity School) is lead pastor at Community Bible Church, a growing multi-site church with four locations in western Arkansas. Every year he meets with nearly one hundred couples with a range of needs, from pre-marital counseling to navigating the most serious betrayals. A marriage and parenting conference speaker, he and his wife, Jenny, have two children and live in Fort Smith, Arkansas. He blogs at kevinathompson.com.

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Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work

With engaging stories and clear, simple language, pastor Kevin Thompson shows how to live out three distinct roles in marraige. Using solid biblical principles, he helps you and your spouse grow your friendship, be supportive partners through the good times and the bad, and develop a healthy and satisfying sex life.

Sharing Your Faith with Grace and Purpose

You can confidently and lovingly share your faith—you just need to learn some new tactics to do so! In this Focus on the Family Daily Broadcast, apologist Greg Koukl outlines the “Columbo” tactic of asking questions, the “self-defeating argument” tactic to find holes in your opponent’s arguments, and other specific methods for engaging in faith-building conversations with others. Greg pulls from his over 30 years of experience debating atheists and agnostics to help you share your faith with grace and truth.

Mr. Greg Koukl

Greg Koukl is a writer, public speaker and talk show host who’s spent 30 years advocating for and defending the Christian worldview. Greg has written or contributed to 15 books, including The Story of RealityTactics, and Precious Unborn Human Persons. Greg has published nearly 230 articles and has spoken on 80 college and university campuses in the U.S. and abroad.

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Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions

In a world increasingly indifferent to Christian truth, followers of Christ need to be equipped to communicate with those who do not speak their language or accept their source of authority. In Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition, Gregory Koukl demonstrates how to artfully regain control of conversations, keeping them moving forward in constructive ways through thoughtful diplomacy. You’ll learn how to stop challengers in their tracks and how to turn the tables on questions or provocative statements. Most important, you’ll learn how to get people thinking about Jesus.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 1

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Giving up Sugar, Tasting God's Goodness

As a latchkey kid, Wendy Speake turned to sugar for comfort. Every Friday, she would pedal to the candy show and use her allowance to fill her bag with candy. And one day, when she was older and a mom of three young boys, she came to realize that she was still “pedaling” away from her stress and using sugar as comfort, instead of turning to Jesus. She was joyless, worn out, tired, and in need of a change. In this interview, Wendy will challenge Christians to take 40 days to focus on fasting from something they turn to instead of Jesus for comfort. She invited people to break free from a dependence on sugar and taste the goodness of God.

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Mrs. Wendy Speake

With a background in Hollywood as a trained actress, Wendy Speake ministers to women as a bible teacher by applying the power of drama, poetry and comedy to the study of Scripture and real-life application of biblical truths. She has co-authored two books with Amber Lia titled Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and their latest, Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, Say Something New. Wendy is also the co-author (with Kelli Stuart) of Life Creative: Inspiration for Today’s Renaissance Mom.

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The 40-Day Sugar Fast: Where Physical Detox Meets Spiritual Transformation

Welcome to the 40-Day Sugar Fast, a fast that begins with us giving Jesus our sugar and ends with Jesus giving us himself–the only thing that can ever truly satisfy our soul’s deep hunger. On this 40-day journey you’ll learn how to stop fixating on food and other things you use to fill the voids in life and instead fix your eyes on Christ. Anyone who runs to sugar for comfort or a reward, who eats mindlessly or out of boredom, who feels physically and spiritually lethargic, or who struggles with self-control will discover here not only freedom from their cravings but an entirely new appetite for the good things God has for us.

Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior - Part 2

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known family psychologist and an award-winning, New York Times best-selling author. He is also a popular public speaker and media personality who has made countless guest appearances on numerous radio and TV programs. Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books including The Birth Order BookHave a New Kid by Friday and Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours.

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Why Your Kids Misbehave and What to Do about It

Tantrums. Talking back. Throwing toys or food. Meltdowns. Slamming doors. Kids know just how to push your buttons. You’ve tried all sorts of methods, but nothing seems to work. In this book, Dr. Kevin Leman reveals exactly why kids misbehave and how you can turn that behavior around with practical, no-nonsense strategies that really work . . . and are a long-term win for both of you.

Loving Your Spouse Through the Seasons of Marriage - Part 2

Debra Fileta has identified the four seasons of marriage that correspond with our natural seasons – spring (new life and new love), summer (things get hot!), fall (showing our true colors), and winter (long days ahead). In this interview, she will help couples better understand the four seasons of healthy relationships, what to expect during each one, and how to carefully navigate them for a stronger marriage.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage.

Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Every relationship goes through four life-changing seasons: Spring. Summer. Fall. Winter. Each season plays an important role in taking your relationship to the next level. And depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow, or it will slowly die. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged or married, join licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta as she takes you on an eye-opening psychological and spiritual journey through the four seasons that she has observed in every healthy relationship.

Reconciling Faith and Science in a Medical Crisis

Dr. Lee Warren is a neurosurgeon who has faced many heavy challenges in his life – from serving in the Iraq War to removing deadly brain tumors to experiencing the loss of a teenage son. He’ll share about his difficult quest to find answers to some of life’s toughest questions, while holding onto his faith in God and the sure hope of heaven

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Dr. Lee Warren

W. Lee Warren, M.D., is a brain surgeon , inventor, Iraq War veteran, and author of I’ve Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know, winner of the Christian Book Award®. His previous book, No Place to Hide, was included on the 2015 U.S. Air Force Chief of Staff’s Recommended Reading List. Dr. Warren has appeared on The 700 Club and the CBS Evening News, and his writings have been featured in Guideposts magazine. His Dr. Lee Warren Podcast, which is heard in more than 60 countries, helps listeners use the power of neuroscience, faith, and common sense to change their lives.

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I've Seen the End of You: A Neurosurgeon's Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know

This gripping inspirational memoir grapples with the tension between faith and science—and between death and hope—as a seasoned neurosurgeon faces insurmountable odds and grief both in the office and at home.

Praying Scripture Over Your Child’s Life - Part 1

Jodie Berndt loves to pray for her children. She’s been doing that for the past thirty years. Now she helps other parents to talk to God, asking for the salvation of their kids, and for wisdom, self-discipline, purpose, a future and much more. She offers fun and practical encouragement that moms and dads can put to work immediately in their daily lives as they prepare their children for a life in Christ.

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Jodie Berndt

Jodie Berndt is a public speaker, a Bible teacher, and the the author of 10 books. Find out more about Jodie and get some free resources (including printable prayer cards and calendars) at her website, jodieberndt.com.

Cover image of Jodie Berndt's book "Praying the Scriptures for Your Children"

Praying the Scriptures Over Your Children

You will discover how using the Bible to shape your desires and requests opens the door to God’s provision—and frees us from things like worry and fear in our parenting! This expanded edition of the bestseller features updated content on issues like technology and identity, and comes with new material designed to invite children into the family prayer circle. Purchase now and receive 10% off your product.

Mothers and Sons: Being a Godly Influence - Part 1

Rhonda Stoppe describes her early motherhood challenges of raising a son, which was intimidating to her. She found help through group of older women mentors. She urges moms to see their role as ministry in shaping sons to be good and godly men. Rhonda outlines several practical suggestions to moms about spiritual training, how to communicate with boys, and supporting the father-son relationship as a wife.

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Rhonda Stoppe

Drawing upon 35 years of experience as a mentor, pastor’s wife, and homeschool mom, Rhonda Stoppe offers encouragement and guidance to women as an author and public speaker. She is popularly known as the “No Regrets Woman,” as she is especially passionate about helping women live life without regrets. Rhonda’s books include Moms Raising Sons to Be MenReal Life Romance, and The Marriage Mentor, which she co-authored with her husband, Steve.

Cover image of Rhonda Stoppe's book "Moms Raising Sons to be Men"

Moms Raising Sons to Be Men

Mothers of boys have the special calling to shape future men of God. Popular speaker Rhonda Stoppe, mom to two sons, knows this opportunity is a challenge, a joy, and probably the most important work of a woman’s life. Drawing from years of experience, this inspirational resource will revive the faithfulness and fortitude a woman needs to partner with God as they shape the character and heart of a future godly man.

Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage Part 1

They were both convinced they had married the wrong person. From almost the very beginning of their marriage, Amber and Guy Lia experienced various tensions and personality clashes related to house cleaning, backseat driving, workaholism, and intimacy. In this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Amber and Guy discuss how they bravely faced the triggers head-on, and committed to working on their own relationships with Jesus. As you listen to the Lia’s story, you’ll feel hope that you, too, can see real marriage transformation!

Headshot of Guy and Amber Lia

Mr. and Mrs. Guy and Amber Lia and Mrs. Jean Daly

Amber Lia is a work-at-home mom, blogger, public speaker, and co-author of two best-selling books. Her husband, Guy, is a former TV, feature film, and VFX development and production executive who has worked on popular TV shows and films. Guy and Amber own Storehouse Media Group, a faith- and family-friendly TV and film production company based in Los Angeles,

Cover image of the book "Marriage Triggers" by Guy and Amber Lia

Marriage Triggers: How You and Your Spouse Can Exchange Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses

A husband-wife team offers practical advice for married couples to end the cycle of reactionary arguments by examining the most common issues that trigger disagreements and apply God’s Word to radically transform relationships.

What to Do When You're Not Okay - Part 1

Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are. Counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.

Author Debra Fileta in the Focus on the Family broadcast studio

Mrs. Debra Fileta

Debra Fileta is a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship and marital issues. She is also a public speaker and the author of multiple books, including Married SexChoosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me, Love in Every Season, and Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You’re Doing, and Why It Matters. Debra’s popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, and her Love + Relationships podcast reach millions of people each year offering guidance on topics including love, sex, and marriage. Debra resides in Pennsylvania with her husband, John, and their four children.

Are You Really Okay?

Are You Really OK: Getting Real About Who You Are

In Are You Really OK? author and licensed counselor Debra Fileta challenges you to get real with who you are and how you’re doing spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically so you can recognize where you need growth and healing.

Navigating a Toxic Culture with Your Daughter - Part 1

As a pediatrician, Dr. Meg Meeker has seen thousands of girls come through her office through the years. They struggle with eating issues, sexual identity, social media…and many other challenges in this toxic culture. Dr. Meeker will encourage parents to invest love and time in their daughters and develop their character to give them the best opportunity for a bright future, all rooted in a spiritual foundation. The discussion also includes healthy feminism vs. toxic feminism

Mrs. Meg Meeker

Dr. Meg Meeker is a pediatrician who is widely recognized as one of the country’s leading authorities on parenting, teens and children’s health. With appearances on numerous nationally syndicated radio and TV programs, her popularity as a an expert on key issues confronting families has created a strong following across America. Her work with countless families over the years served as the inspiration behind her best-selling books which include Strong Fathers, Strong DaughtersStrong Mothers, Strong Sons and The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers

Cover image of Dr. Meg Meeker's book "Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture"

Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe

Meg Meeker has been a pediatrician for more than thirty years, is a mother and a grandmother, and has seen it all. She knows what makes for strong, happy, healthy young women–and what puts our daughters at risk. Combining that experience with her famous common sense, she explains the eleven steps that will help your daughter–whether she’s a toddler or a troubled teen–to achieve her full human potential.

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Newest Release - Episode 1: The Truth About Life!

In this episode, we will tackle tough questions like, “When does life begin?” and “What does the Bible
say about Life?” You’ll discover and understand the stages of pre-born life and that babies are more than
just a clump of cells!

Yes, I Promise to Pray for the Pre-born and Their Moms!

Will you pray for the pre-born and moms that are facing unexpected pregnancies? We will send you a 7-day prayer guide that will help guide you along this journey with us!! You can even choose to receive this great resource by text!